OWN YOUR STUFF, NOT SOMEONE ELSE'S !
I had a friend of mine ask me an interesting question this week. He was on the outs with a good friend of his, but the strange thing was, he didn't really know why. His friend seemed insulted and irritated with him. When our hero confronted his friend and asked what was wrong, the person said: "Nothing nothing" and then proceeded to continue acting irritable.
What to do with something like this ?
Let me start off by saying, in life, that we are not responsible for other people's reactions. This might be a bit of a depressing place to begin, but if - like our hero - you have a friend who's taken it into her head that you've done something wrong, and she isn't willing to forgive, it's sad, but it's not under your control.
That is how life works. We act. We put stuff out into the world (or not). And the other people who surround us interpret our action or non-action. They get their own ideas, they decide on their own reactions to us.
This means that if someone has decided to be angry with you - and you've confronted the situation to no avail - there isn't a whole lot you can do about it. The first thing to realize is that others own their reactions, not you.
Other people reactions to your actions are beyond your control. Following a confrontation or some sort of unpleasantness, uou owe people to extend your hand, but it is up to them whether they take it.
1 comments:
Great stuff. Really glad to read it since I got something similar going on with me which was bothering me at the start of the week. G.
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